The Invitation

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What if… we really stood for what we believed and valued, if we lived it?

The Invitation
by Oriah Mountain Dreamer

“It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it, or fade it, or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own; if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, be realistic, remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day. And if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, ‘Yes.’

It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.”

Success starts within… with being boldly and powerfully you, with standing in the center of the fire and not shrinking back.

What can you do today to step more powerfully into being who you really are and living the life you were born to live?

Check out Oriah’s website: www.oriahmountaindreamer.com

Or get the book through Better World Books:  www.betterworldbooks.com/The-Invitation

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Happy 4th of July!

Declare Your Independence In 1776 the leaders of our country took a stand and declared that they would no longer be controlled, they dissolved the bands that held them back and kept them limited, and they chose a new life.  What if you celebrated this holiday by doing the same for yourself?

The Declaration of Independence came about because a system of government wasn’t working.  That governing system was holding people back, telling them they weren’t worthy or deserving of better and that they weren’t equal.  Do you have internal governing systems; self talk, beliefs and paradigms that are holding you back?  Is it time you declared your independence from those old ways of thinking and being, and created the life, success, and world you desire?

Check out the power and wisdom of The Declaration of Independence but as you read think of that “system of governance” as the thoughts in your head that hold you back and limit you… (I took some serious liberties and shortened this but added nothing):

The Declaration of Independence“When…it becomes necessary for one…to dissolve the…bands…and to assume…the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and…God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of man…”

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all…are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of HappinessThat whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive…it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness.”

“…experience hath shewn that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But… it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security… to alter their former Systems of Government…”

Isn’t that amazing.  They were strong enough in themselves and wise enough to know that they deserved better, that the conventional known way wasn’t working and was holding them back.  And… they did something about it.

What about you?  Are you ready to declare your independence and go for the extraordinary life that awaits you?!  We are such amazing beings and yet we hold our selves back.  Like the founders of our country, what in your own life do you need to take a stand for or a stand against?

    1.  What holds you back?  What self talk, paradigms, beliefs, habits, etc. keep you playing smaller than you dream?  What keeps you “governed” and living a life that is less than you are capable of and less than you deserve?  The voices in our heads, our self-talk is our internal form of government.  It is so much louder and more powerful than anything or anyone outside of us… for bad or good.  The sad thing is we often don’t realize that it is our voice and we can change what it says, and whether it is for us or against us.  We can overthrow that form of “government” and choose to create a new one… a new experience, a new level of success, a new life, new possibilities, a new world… for our selves and in general.

 

  • Change!  Those negative thought are just habits.  It doesn’t matter where they started or how long you’ve been thinking them, you can change them… starting now. Changing our self talk from negative/non-supportive to positive/support is just like changing any habit or muscle, or any other change in life.  At first it may seem clunky and awkward… like working out for the first time after a long stretch of not.  It may even be painful and start a disagreement within us or around us (our own form of war).  But as time goes on, if we keep flexing that muscle; making conscious choices in our self talk, conscious choices in our lives, and living with the beliefs that we are worthy and deserving of life, freedom and the pursuit of happiness, and we support ourselves in going for those it works and it’s totally worth it.

 

Some possible new thoughts:

–  When an opportunity comes up if you first thought is I can’t, think, “Yes, I Can!” and then look for ways that you’ve done that or something similar in the past. Affirm that new belief.

–  Appreciate you.  When you’re out living your life, give your self appreciation for what you do.  Focus on the good that are, that you have, that you give, that you know.  Appreciate you.  If you need extra help with this, at the end of the day write out, “5 of My Days Successes” and list five (no matter how big or small).

Isn’t it time we all start living based upon our own choices and our own values.  How about with this holiday.  Our holidays (Holy Days) can be as sacred as we choose.  What if you chose how to celebrate this in a way that really affirms and reflect you and the life you want?

What does the 4th of July mean to you?  How do you celebrate it?  Have you thought about it and made that conscious choice your self, or are you doing what everybody does or what you’ve always done?  And how would you feel if you went against that norm and did it your way… believing that your way was right?

If we are created equal, our voice and choice matters.  To change we must choose… before choosing, we need to be conscious and not just do what we’ve always done.  Re-define the holidays or any part of your life or belief system… it is your life.  Have you thought about how you want to celebrate that Declaration of Independence Day… is it really a choice or an old habit?

Declare your independence from what holds you back… and stand for you.  You matter, your voice matters, you have something unique and important to do in the world… start today, where you are, with what you have.  Stand for something…listen to your own voice, declare you own truth, know that you are worthy and deserving… that you have the unalienable rights to Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness, make your own choices and be all that you were meant to be.

A little extra food for thought…

Years ago I met a Veteran who’d fought in the Vietnam War and experienced horrible things.  He was an amazing, interesting and kind man.  He did his duty for this country, for us.  I learned so much from him.  On the 4th of July every year he goes way off into the woods where he doesn’t hear the sound of the fireworks because they give him flashbacks of the horrible experiences he’d gone through.  Hearing his story made me think.

Add to that my own experience of growing up on a lake, and seeing that lake on the 5th of July.  Film and garbage from the fireworks the night before, covered the lake and the ducks.  My thoughts… “Why do we celebrate this beautiful country of ours by polluting it”… and, at least for that veteran, by scaring and alienating those who have kept us safe?

There are so many better things we could do on this holiday.  It seems that everything has gotten so commercial, empty, superficial, etc.  Most celebrate this holiday, that is all about that declaration of deserving, by drinking and polluting our country.

What could we do?  What could you do on this 4th of July to make the most of this day?  How can we be like those wise leaders and make a difference in a way that appreciates all that we have?

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Incompletes & Learning From Everything

What could you complete today or this week?  Or what could you just let go of because it doesn’t really need to be done?  Having things sitting unfinished takes up mental space and energy that you could use for much bigger and better things. 

Lisa's Books

This was my pile of books. I used the process from the book “The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up” to let go of so many books. It was a great process.

The beginning of this year I got rid of a bunch of books (Over 150. I read a lot.).  When I did this, I realized some of my books had started to feel like a “To Do List” or “books I should read or do something with”.  I found from talking with some of my clients, it’s the same for them. You?

One of the books I got rid of was Steven Covey’s “7 Habits of Highly Effective People“. I know it’s a good book and I tried to read it many times, even bought the CDs, and just couldn’t get through it. I think it’s because it’s info I already know.  But it’s one of the best success books out there and I felt like I should read it (also true with one of my clients).  It felt great to just let that go.

Then today I was working on something and needed info from the book… so I googled “summary of….” and Voila! I found the summary and learned a few things in the process.

Powerful tips…

1. The book is great, attached is the summary version (I still didn’t finish it).

2.  If something is not right for you (or me), trust that.  You know your self best.  Let go of what doesn’t work and find something that’s right for you.

3.  Letting-go-of or taking-on one incomplete a day or week is a powerful practice and can free up your energy and creativity to do the important things that you want to do.  Having a list and checking them off as we complete them or let them go, can be very powerful.

4.  And sometimes, there is a shorter, easier way!

Enjoy!

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Steven Covey’s “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”

Summary thanks to Hubspot.com  http://www.hubspot.com/sales/habits-of-highly-effective-people-summary

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For Extraordinary Success…Own Who You Are

Can you build a powerful, profitable and impactful business in a way that works for you? Is there is any other way? Extraordinary Success takes owning what is unique about you; your values, your opinions and your way of doing things… and those challenging or quirky things that are uniquely yours. Embracing our humanity not only creates powerful businesses but businesses that empower us.

As an entrepreneur are you using your differences or feeling wrong because of them. One of the most powerful things I do with my clients is get them to own and value “their way” of doing thing… it builds confidence and empowers everything they do.

"In the end, solutions to big problems [will] come...by getting out there, asking questions, seeing things differently and finding the answers ourselves."

“In the end, solutions to big problems [will] come…by getting out there, asking questions, seeing things differently and finding the answers ourselves.”

As Branson said, “my learning disability has never been a setback — it actually gave me a great advantage in business… to bring a different perspective to problems and challenges… to see solutions more clearly… I would ask simple questions that others did not. Over the years, asking the simple questions and striving to answer them have become some of Virgin’s most important characteristics.”

“One thing that entrepreneurs have in common is a talent for seeing things differently.” He used what was different about him.  Entrepreneur Magazine:  “Richard Branson on Why Entrepreneurs Sometimes Struggle With Formal Education”

Take time to own and appreciate what you really have. Write it down so you know those unique skills, talents and passions, unique ways of doing and seeing things that are yours. Bring that to your business as you’re learning and mastering skills, trust your wisdom and instincts… learn the skill well but do the skill your way. When that voice in your head says, “This doesn’t sound right” or feel right, listen to that voice, to what you know. Then bring that to your learning and do it your way.

Imagine sales and marketing your way… a way that values people, supports their success, empowers them. And does the same for you.

As you engage your brain, your wisdom and trust your self more, your personal power will grow… so will your business. And we need more successful businesses run by fully engaged, values-driven entrepreneurs.

Here are some questions, and I’m going to ask them in the way that you may have heard as a kid that made you cringe and hide… but you are no longer a kid and it’s time for you to STAND UP BOLDLY AND CLAIM WHAT IS MAGNIFICENT ABOUT YOU, AND SHARE IT WITH THE WORLD!

So, what’s so special about you? Who do you think you are? OWN IT!   No matter what “they” said, your uniqueness is an asset.  If you want extraordinary, empowering and lasting success, you must value who you are.

Tell me more…

  • What’s great about you?
  • What do your friends and colleagues notice and compliment you for?
  • How could you bring more of your uniqueness into your sales and marketing? What would that look like? How would it feel?
The world needs you to be you.

The world needs you to be you.

Really imagine how it would be and feel.  I know it’s a risk and it takes courage but it’s your life and your success… go for what you want and create something extraordinary.

You were created uniquely. There is no one in the world like you. Own it. Use it. The world needs you to be you. Your business and your success need you to be you. You cannot have an extraordinary business and life if you are being ordinary (trying to be like everyone else). Own and use what you have, appreciate you and all you are… even those quirks and “disabilities” to create extraordinary success and have an extraordinary life.

Go For Extraordinary!™
xo Lisa

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If you’re in the Seattle Area, my What Piece of the Puzzle workshop will help you get clear on what you have and what you want, and use that to create greater success (profit and impact) in your business. You can find my events at: http://lisakbradley.eventbrite.com/

 

 

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Time Management That Works

It’s so easy as an entrepreneur to end up with a “to do” list a mile long.  And if we’re not strategic with our tasks it can feel overwhelming and never ending.  Even though we are working, we may not be building our self, our business, or our income, which is incredibly frustrating.  We end up working and feel like were getting nowhere.

“Burnout doesn’t occur because we’re solving problems; it occurs because we’ve been trying to solve the same problem over and over.”  Susan Scott

There are complete books on time management; complicated tools, one more thing to learn… and sometimes they work.  Often times those end up being one more thing to do… and just because something worked for someone else, that doesn’t mean it’s the best tool for you.  So, what’s the solution?  It’s really simple.  Try this… then play with it and make it your own.

Step 1 – What is it you are creating, the desired result?  A big reason one’s actions feel jumbled or we aren’t sure what to do is we don’t know where we’re headed.  You have to decide.  It doesn’t have to be a forever destination but decide something and stay focused on it for 30 days.

If you’re goal is to get 5 clients or pay the bills and you’re focused on that or just acting without a focus, your actions will be much different than if you’re goal is to make $250,000 and build a multi-million dollar business.  Stop for a minute and strategize steps for either of those and see how different they are.  (Really, take a minute to do that on paper).  See the difference?  Aha!  See, you’re already getting the hang of it.

With the unclear goal, you’ll float around, not really know what to do.  You’ll try and fail but your failures won’t help you learn because you don’t have a big picture that you’re moving toward, you don’t know what you are trying to learn.

The second, you’re goal is clear.  You’ll know if you’re working toward it or not.  It’s big enough that you’ll need to come up with strategy and leveraging, growing your skills… all of which will help you see you’re goal is happening, you’ll feel alive and inspired.  Even mistakes, when looked at as a step toward your goal, can feel like wins.

Step 2 – Keep your Vision/Result in front of you every day.  Focus on what you are building.  Come up with a word or two, or an image as a reminder.  Keep it simple.  It doesn’t have to mean anything to anyone else; it just needs to be powerful and easy to focus on for you.  Then look at it every day, think on it, imagine it… that end result you are creating.

Step 3 – This is the time management step… on your daily to do list, only put your top 3 musts.  Those highest priority items that will support you today and take you were you’re going.  List their priority level… 1, 2, 3 and do them.

Remember, this is an idea and a framework.  The most powerful way to use it is to try it, check-in with your self and see how it’s working, and change it around a bit to make it work for you.  If anyone tells you there is only one way to do things, run.  We all have a way… trust yours.  The more you do, the more powerful you will become in and through your business.

First just give this a try.  Again…  The Power of Three:

Step 1 – Decide Where You’re Going

Step 2 – Keep Your Vision Alive and In Your Mind

Step 3 – Do Your 3 Highest Priority Steps Daily

Extra Credit – Give your self credit for what you’ve done, feel good about it.

Keep it simple and find things that work for you.  Often, the most simple tools are the most powerful, and used by the smartest people… like you.

Remember… go for your dream, make your difference, live an Extraordinary Life!

If you have any questions or comments, please ask below.  And I’d love to hear how it goes… Lisa

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