What if… the adversity you’re facing in your business/life right now is not just a problem but an opportunity that holds within it all the growth and learning opportunities to take you beyond it, and help you fulfill your potential?
Our challenges are not problems, per se; they are the solution to our problems. Yes, there is something “wrong”, something that is not working. But not something to avoid and be afraid of, not something wrong about us. Those challenges offer us…offer you…the opportunity to grow and learn, and become what and who you need to, to move forward the next step.
If we resist that lesson or growth, we stay stuck where we are. The problem stays or comes up over and over in different ways. We can try to do other things to fix our self… and the problem is still there because… the only way through, is through. The only way to truly get beyond it, is to step into it and learn what it is trying to teach us.
The challenges (this economy, divorce, addiction, etc.) are something to embrace, not feel victim of. Responding to the problem, instead of reacting to it is our next step to build our self and fulfill our personal potential (growing better financial skills & choices, building relationship and partnership tools, self power and self care versus avoidance, etc.).
It’s about knowing we are capable, that there is a solution and “using” the problem as our opportunity to grow. Using the “bad situation” to our advantage… using it to grow our strength, our skills, our capabilities, our confidence, and our personal success and spiritual tools. Growing these one step at a time in the area most needed, the one bugging you the most, now so that we grow into all that we are meant to be.
I love using nature as a metaphor… Imagine a flower.
First, you’re just a seed in the ground. Hanging out in the dirt, just being. Time goes by, and you start having this desire of wanting to be more, somewhere in you, you know you are meant to grow. You keep thinking about it. Then one day you crack open! What the…!
Then things start growing out of you, roots and a stem…what the heck! Then you pop into daylight…Whoa! Ouch! And then the first leaf starts…a bump, a weird growth on your side. You don’t know what it is… is it good, is it bad? And you keep growing and getting stronger and bigger…each step of the way, making way for the next, even fall and winter, every step preparing you for the next phase of you being what you are meant to be.
…But what if, when that first root came out, it scared you, and you spent all you energy trying to hold it in. What if you were the first seed around to crack open and you were embarrassed because you felt different or broken, and you tried to stop growing. What if you thought, “I don’t know how to do that” so you resisted your natural instincts and intuition of what to do. Or that first flower started to bloom, like the other flowers around you, and you thought “I’m not good enough to do that” and you held closed, not showing your magnificence… Sound familiar? Take a deep breath.
The thing is, each step along the way, like the flower, will bring you to the next place. Each step is necessary for your fulfillment. Every root and leaf might have felt new and wrong and frightening, and every bit was necessary for that flower to fulfill it’s potential.
No matter how big or frightening what you’re facing is, it is an opportunity for you to become all you are meant to be.
We all have areas in our life where we get stuck, where we stop our selves from fulfilling our potential. Instead of doing the things we fear or feel less-than (not capable of) we avoid in whatever way we do (tv, booze, busyness, eating, etc.), and we don’t build that skill, talent, or muscle to get through it. Then we can’t do the next thing. We’re stuck. We also break down our self confidence, our personal power, our faith, our belief in the rightness of things and that we can handle whatever comes up.
We can get stuck in any area. It can be over something like an opportunity to speak in front of 10’s of thousands of people, standing up for what we believe in at work, trying a bold new way of doing when everyone is doing something else, breaking out of our status quo. It can be about feeling not good enough as you are (too young, old, tall, short, etc.). It can be having a conversation we’re afraid of, doing what we long to but feel too small to or knowing it’s not “normal”. It can be our finances. It can be feeling stuck in our business or our relationship or our weight. It can be just trusting that we’re great, going for what we want when it doesn’t feel feasible, or being who we want to be. It is anywhere in life where we feel stuck or powerless, where we are complaining, blaming and reacting versus responding and feeling we have a choice and making that choice.
What’s that quote again? “What we resist, persists.” Whatever we don’t face, whatever we don’t learn, whatever skill we don’t acquire, whatever we don’t accept and do what we can with, it will keep us stuck, it will keep things not working. And, the good news…
Within the challenge in front of you, is your opportunity to fulfill your potential.